Maybe we can all learn to rephrase the question, how are you doing? Or to at least, hear the question differently. What interesting things are happening with you? How are you holding up? How is your heart today?
Omid Safi offered the following advice:
“One of the things that breaks my heart, whether in the corporate world or in the academic world, is that I ask my friends, “How are you doing?” and all I get in answer is this head nod, “You know, I am so busy, so busy.” And I feel like, “You told me nothing.”
How do we remember that we are human beings, not human doings? When someone asks you, “How are you?” Don’t shout back your to-do list. I am not asking what do you need to get done today. If we have to rephrase it, what I am really asking is, “How is your heart today?”
Take that risk with the people who deserve it, who are worthy of it, make yourself vulnerable to them, actually tell them, actually share with them: “I am really struggling today. I am doing my very best, but I can really use a hug.” You might just find that it changes the dynamic of your connection with them.”
Giving yourself permission to be silly will nourish your creativity and is a good exercise in letting go! (personal photo from a proud nephew’s wedding day last summer)
white ice –
spring forced to thaw
I continue to share winter memories. These photos are from the Moose Loop snowshoe trail near Jasper, Alberta. It was a quiet afternoon with pristine snow. The trail was well travelled but you can see from the photo of me by the large rock what happens when you stray off trail. I sunk to my thighs even with the snowshoes! We chose to hike the trail counter clockwise and were rewarded with the final couple of kilometers being along a lake with stunning mountain views. The scenery reminded me of Robert Frost’s poem, Stopping By Woods On A Snowy Evening (1923). Here is the final stanza of that poem:
The woods are lovely, dark and deep,
But I have promises to keep
And miles to go before I sleep,
And miles to go before I sleep.
With spring reluctant to arrive we decided to enjoy abundant snow at Fernie, BC. A cornice on the mountaintop behind me looked very much like a huge, dollop of whipped cream or a gigantic white chocolate Hershey kiss 🙂
Snow conditions were great for skiing. What a fun way to spend time with friends!
The canyon, which is pronounced ‘Mal-een’, is unusual in many ways. It is explained to be a classic gorge cut by a waterfall but that waterfall only runs from May to December. Mid-fall through late spring you will see weird and wonderful things like sections of running water and dry river bed, water flowing upstream and waterfalls that are swallowed by the earth. We visited the canyon earlier this month. It is beautiful any time of year.
“Inspiration exists, but it has to find us working.” (Pablo Picasso)
((personal photo taken when we were visiting Vancouver Island)
May 2018 be filled with Peace, Love and Joy for you and your families!!
within the city
a buffalo stands alone
where horses once roamed